Communication for engineers
#76-10/14/08: Context and Communication.
Context and Communication.
“Context-Static questionnaires don’t work.”
Posted by Steven Cerri on Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Hello everyone!
I was teaching a management class at the University of California, Santa Barbara, this last Friday.
I was talking to the class about the way in which each of us is “programmed” to behave in certain ways.
I gave the students a questionnaire and one of the categories surveyed by the questionnaire had to do with being oriented toward “details” or toward “big picture”. Those people who prefer to focus on the “big picture” have a tendency to detest details and vice versa. Some people prefer a balance and some people prefer one extreme or the other.
In response to the questionnaire, some of the students displayed preferences for details or big picture, while others displayed a balance.
They got the very clear message that their preferences are real and strong. Students were acknowledging that they either had no real preference or they had strong preferences and they were able to give examples of how these preferences showed up in their lives.
As our discussion progressed, one of the students asked if the scores recorded by the questionnaire ever changed. Essentially, “Do they remain constant or do they change?”
Now here is the very interesting part. Once the students clearly understood that every human being has these “internal programs” that run, often outside of our conscious awareness, my answer to the question was that not only do the preferences change over time, they actually are different depending upon the situation; different depending upon the “context”.
I’ll take myself as an example. When I take my own questionnaire, the survey comes back indicating that I have a very high preference for “big picture” and I have a very low tolerance for details.
Don’t give me details! My eyes glaze over. I want to focus on the big picture. I’ll let someone else attend to the details.... That’s how I answered the questionnaire. And it’s TRUE....
Unless, I’m being creative. If I’m designing a rocket engine, or designing a new training, essentially doing something I consider to be very creative… then I’m all over the details.
So our internal programs actually shift depending upon the context.
Now not everyone has such a strong shift depending upon the context as I have. But most people will display some shift based on context.
This is why I don’t use Myers-Briggs, Disc, or Enneagram. They are context independent. They are great to convince people that people have programs, but then there are a lot of questionnaires that do that. The issue with most systems out there is that they set the internal programs in place assuming that the context is static.
We all know that the context shifts. We all know that situations change.
I’ve developed communication, influence, and leadership processes that allow for a real-time shift in the context, which is exactly what happens in real life. The communicator can actually determine what the context is that is “driving” the interaction and alter the messages so that they can take into account the internal programs of the people listening. It’s a real-time, context-sensitive, communication and leadership process that allows the communicator to adjust the communication process to match the context.
Now I know this sounds like a blatant marketing piece… sorry. But I don’t know how else to talk about what I consider to be a fundamental issue in human communication. And that is that people and the communication and leadership processes are dynamic. They are not static and if we are going to be highly effective in communication, management, and leadership we have to understand that we must engage with people in a real-time “dance”. A real-time give and take that takes attention and awareness and an understanding of all the levels of communication that are taking place simultaneously.
How else can effective communication, influence, and leadership be accomplished?
Be well,
Steven Cerri
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Posted by Steven Cerri on 10/14 at 09:32 PM Inter-Personal People Skills • Communication for engineers • (0) Comments • (0) Trackbacks • Permalink
#24-01-08-07: Art of Persuasion
Art of Persuasion
“The Necessary Art of Persuasion”
Posted by Steven Cerri on Monday, January 8, 2007
Good evening!
I just finished reviewing an article in the Harvard Business Review magazine called OnPoint, dated Winter 2006. These are selected articles from the Harvard Business Review, and the title on the cover is “The Art of Middle Management.” It’s an interesting magazine with a variety of articles and as the weeks go by, I’ll be reviewing some of the articles in my blogs.
One of the major articles is titled, “The Middle Manager as Innovator” and while I’ll probably talk about the full article in future blogs, in this blog I want to zero in on the additional reading that was listed under the “Further Reading” heading at the end of the article.
One of the articles recommended as further reading was and article printed in the Harvard Business Review, dated May-June 1998 and listed as Product no. 4258. The title of this essay was “The Necessary Art of Persuasion”. I’ll quote a few sentences from the summary of that article:
“In driving innovation, middle managers must know how to persuade key constituencies to support their ideas. This skill is particularly crucial as managers “sell” project ideas, garner needed resources and top-level support, and mobilize key players to carry out the project as a unified team.”
No doubt this is necessary at any level in an organization from the technologist to the technical manager. However, it is a skill that in most cases must be learned by the technologist who wants to become a manager because ...
we are not taught how to “sell” our ideas during our college education. While in school, we are taught that the facts “sell” our ideas. The “truth” sells our ideas. No persuasion is necessary; our answers are either right or they are wrong, and no wrong answer can be “sold” and no right answer needs “selling”.
I’ll continue to quote the article summary; “This article outlines four powerful steps to persuasion: 1) establish credibility through pertinent expertise and positive relationships, 2) clarify the shared benefits of a potential innovation project, 3) vividly reinforce one’s position through compelling examples, stories, and metaphors, and 4) connect emotionally with one’s listeners.”
Now notice the four items listed in this article summary:
1) establish credibility through pertinent expertise and positive relationships
2) clarify the shared benefits of a potential innovation project
3) vividly reinforce one’s position through compelling examples, stories, and metaphors
4) connect emotionally with one’s listeners
I find the order of these four items interesting. I’d put number 4 at the top of the list because it seems impossible to me that anyone can accomplish items 1, 2, and 3 without performing item #4 first. Who do you listen to? Whose advise do you take? Who do you take seriously? Who do you consider wise? The person you listen to, whose advice you take, whom you take seriously and consider wise, is the person you give something to that is very important and very emotional… it’s the person you TRUST.
Trust is an emotion. It is not based on logic, although we’d like to think it is. Trust allows us to listen with open attitude so that someone can indeed establish credibility, can clarify shared benefits and vividly provide examples, stories, and metaphors. It is trust that must be there first.
And who do we trust? Just look around the world. Without much effort we can see that people have a tendency to trust people who are more similar to them than those who are dissimilar to them. Said another way, we feel more comfortable with people who are more like us than with people who are less like us.
So, notice, we are building a hierarchy here.
A) Our ability to persuade is based on accomplishing the four items listed above.
B) Those four items are dependent on our ability to connect emotionally with our listener.
C) Our ability to connect emotionally is another word for trust.
D) We more easily trust people who are more like us than those who are not like us.
The next question is, how do we convey to people that we are more like them than less like them?
To answer that question, lets look at scientific research. Research over the last 40 years has given us the same conclusion, over and over again. We have three ways to communicate our ideas and our messages. We can use the words, that is the content of our message, either spoken or written. We can use our voices, the tone, speed, loudness of communication along with other vocal parameters. Or we can use our physical orientation, often referred to as body language.
The data consistently come back the same. The ability of the words (i.e., content) to make the emotional connection is estimated to be around 7% (+/- 2%). The ability of our voice tone, speed, loudness etc., to make the emotional connection is estimated to be around 35% (+/-2%). And the ability of our body orientation, posture, (i.e., body language) to make the emotional connection is around 58% (+/-2%).
It doesn’t take long to look at these data and determine what the message is. The connection that builds trust, that allows our messages to be heard is not based on the words we use, it’s based on our voice and our body language. And in fact, we all have plenty of examples of this in our real life work experience. How often have you been in a meeting or been in a discussion and everyone has seemingly agreed to an action, a decision, or a conclusion only to discover three days later it is as if no one apparently attended the same meeting. Each person had a different interpretation primarily because the emotional connection of trust had not been established allowing people to understand the same thing, agree to that understanding, and commit to that agreement.
The ability to communicate at these much subtler levels, to build trust based on similarity and an emotional connection, will allow you to be listened to and to be accepted. It will allow you to be heard. It is only then that your stories and metaphors will be heard. It is only then that your credibility can be built. It is only then that you can secure the necessary resources and build the team that can get the project done.
The subtleties of human non-verbal communication are the foundation of all human communication. Master them and you master the Necessary Art of Persuasion. Master the Necessary Art of Persuasion and you master the foundation, the first step to management and ... leadership.
Be well
Steven Cerri
Posted by Steven Cerri on 01/08 at 06:35 PM Engineer to Technical Manager • Inter-Personal People Skills • Communication for engineers • Soft Skills for engineers • Soft Skills for Technologists • (0) Comments • Permalink
#23-01-02-07: Radio Head
Radio Head
“Being real doesn’t get it”
Posted by Steven Cerri on Monday, January 2, 2007
Good evening!
I was listening to a radio show just before the new year to an interview with the lead member of band Radio Head. Now Radio Head has been called one of the best bands around and at times the best band playing anywhere. I don’t much listen to them, but I found the interview interesting and there is a connection between what I heard and technology management.
At one point, the lead member of Radio Head was asked what it’s like to continually play the same songs over and over while on tour. He responded that by the time his band had played the same songs over and over on their last tour and then they thought about the fact that they were going to record some of those same songs and then they would have to play them again on their subsequent tour, he indicated that it was a bit much.
In fact, he said that on his last tour there were times when he would just stare at the audience for a long while mumbling something about having to play these songs again. The interviewer said that she had heard that at one point he was “unravelling” on stage and he admitted that he indeed had been “unravelling”, mumbling and complaining to the audience. Having to play the same songs over and over was getting to him he said. When she asked about his rationale for doing that in front of the audience that had paid money to see him and his band, he said that,
“Well, I can either be real or not. I think people want me to be real.”
REALLY?!
The people in the audience didn’t pay to see him be real. They paid to be entertained. The band members can be self-indulgent before or after the show, but not during the show.
Do you go to concerts hoping to see the band members work out their personal crises on stage or do you go to hear them play the songs that excite you and make you want to hear more? In the environment of a concert, the band members are expected to transcend their personal issues and do what they came to do… play their music, and play it well. The situation, the context, requires that they behave in a way that is appropriate for that context. (Bruce Springstein gets sick before many of his concerts but you wouldn’t know it when he steps on stage.)
So, “What does this have to do with management, and technical management in particular?”, you might ask. The same is expected of a manager as is expected of the band. As a technology manager, you’re not expected to work out your issues of management, leadership, self-esteem, authority figures, shyness, etc. while you are managing or leading your direct reports. Just like the band members, you’re expected to be human, you’re expected to lead your team, but your are not expected to be “real” in the sense that you don’t deliver. And as a manager or leader your job is to deliver the management or deliver the leadership. That means your job is to be effective.
You’ll often hear me say that I’m not concerned about the comfort of the manager. Some people say that the manager needs to be comfortable in order to do a good job of managing. Not so. I don’t care if the manager is comfortable. It’s important that the employees be motivated and if that means that the manager is uncomfortable, so be it. As a technical manager your job is not to be “real” in the sense that it interferes with your effectiveness. Just like the audience that paid to attend a concert to be entertained, your company is paying your to be an effective manager and an effective leader. And, your direct reports are expecting the same thing.
Let me be clear. In order to be effective you don’t have to give up your humanity. However, if being effective means stretching your behavior so that you are a little uncomfortable, then stretch. In the final analysis your being paid for the results of your team, not for being “real”.
Just some food for thought.
Until next Monday.
Be well
Steven Cerri
Posted by Steven Cerri on 01/02 at 10:05 PM Leadership • Management • Inter-Personal People Skills • Communication for engineers • Soft Skills for engineers • Soft Skills for Technologists • (0) Comments • Permalink
